MEET: Sofya // New York City
Profession: Market Activation Manager at Vita Coco
Words to live by: You can’t fake passion.
Currently listening: Grown Woman by Beyonce
Recommended book: How about short stories? Both oddball stories about bellies: “Marzipan” by Aimee Bender and “Guts” by Chuck Palahniuk Languages
I speak: Russian, English, and a little bit of French
I enjoy trips to Russia because: Most importantly, my entire family is still there. Secondly, because of the history. It is interesting to see the perspective of a country that has experienced monarchy, communism, and democracy all within the last century. It is also fascinating to learn about their perspective of America because of everything that happened during WWII and the Cold War.
My favorite city in the world: I don’t know if I’ve found it yet. I really do love Berlin because of my interest in WWII. If only it was near a coast *sigh*
Future travel bucket list: Thailand, Japan, Alaska, Brazil, Croatia, Bali, Philippines – I just started sponsoring a child there that I hope to visit one day!
Living in New York has taught me: The importance of resilience, motivation from both within and the outside world, and how the pace of a city dictates your place in the world.
THINGS I KNOW ABOUT MYSELF
- I am sad unless I am busy
- I love being lazy, but I had being static
- I thrive off of chaos
- I have too high of expectations
- I get bored quickly
- I hate choices
- I want to help people – but who?
- I will never be satisfied
- Waking up always sucks – regardless of what time you do it
- I drink too much
- Weed makes me more creative
- I like writing, photography, and photoshop
- I need to slow down more often
- I am semi-outdoorsy
- I am an extremist
- I go through phases
- I have a very chaotic mind
- I could potentially be a graphic designer or copywriter
- I fight myself constantly
- I have flavors of the month
- I am the flavor of the month
- People think I use them
- I use people
- I am selfish
I spend hours trying to reconcile all the things I know about myself—the paradoxes of me. Is my undying urge to keep moving, speeding ahead, and getting away something I value? Or is it a fault? Is my independence helping me or is it making it hard for me to have real relationships?
I am wading through myself: trying to figure out what bubbles up to the surface and remains. At the same time, I’m constantly evolving and making it more difficult to pinpoint myself.
So as a way to ground myself, I started making a list of things I know about myself and adding to it. Fundamental things that I may or may not like, things that do not change with the place I happen to be in at the time. Things I can look upon and understand and remind myself about when I’m feeling lost.
I have been lucky enough to live in various places throughout my life: Siberia, Chicago, San Diego, San Jose, New York City, and Paris. I have traveled to Florida, Ohio, Germany, Italy, and Belgium among others. It has made me stir crazy and always on the lookout for my next destination. I used to think that this wanting to escape was a curse—that I was “escapist”. That I was running from my problems or evading solutions. People never failed to remind me that is was.
Now I realize it is a tremendous gift; A blessing. Wanting to leave is courage, curiosity, and faith in my own clairvoyance.
I will never stop traveling and I will never stop teaching myself about myself. Going places and experiencing new things and same things has taught me the things on that list, for better or for worse. Many times, it has created the characteristics and habits that I put on that list. It has taught me how I respond to situations, how I meet people, how I treat people, and how I deal. It has taught me that conversation is an art. That it’s not easy for anyone. That there’s always someone to impress. That we all try. That you can make a lot of money, it’s just what you’re willing to do about it. That sometimes people are just too good at being who they are. That you should hit them where they ain’t. And that traveling thoughts are the best thoughts. It takes a lot of different experiences, places, and people to bring out what you love about yourself and what you hate about yourself and what you want from the world based on what’s already happening in it.